DATING TIPS & ADVICE
What’s the Best, Non-creepy Way to Approach Women?
Based on answers from the women of Reddit
For centuries, men have been grappling with the delicate art of flirting, hoping to strike that perfect balance between charm and respect.
But despite their best efforts, many of them seem to fall short of the mark, leaving a trail of uncomfortable encounters in their wake.
So what are the best, non-creepy ways to approach women then? Well, there’s no better way to know than to ask women themselves.
So here are some pieces of advice from women on the right way to approach them.
Wait until you’re in an appropriate place.
This one should be a no-brainer. You wouldn’t walk up to your boss in the middle of a meeting and start chatting about the latest episode of your favorite show, would you?
The same goes for approaching women. Wait until you’re in a setting that allows for social interaction, like a party or a social event.
And for the love of all that is holy, don’t approach them on the street or in a public space unless you have a legitimate reason to do so.
Don’t be demanding.
I get it. You’re interested in this woman, and you want to get to know her better. But that doesn’t give you the right to demand her time, attention, or affection.
So ask if she would like to chat or perhaps grab a coffee sometime. If she’s not interested, respect her decision and move on gracefully.
Women are not here to serve your every whim, and acting like they are is a surefire way to come across as entitled and, well, creepy.
Remember, no means no, and pushing the issue will only make you look desperate.
Learn how to read body cues.
You will know if a woman wants you when you read her body language. And the same thing goes if she’s uncomfortable right off the bat.
If she maintains eye contact and seems relaxed talking with you, you can go on and do your thing. But if she’s closed off, take that as a sign to back off and respect her boundaries.
Be short and sweet.
Don’t overstay your welcome. Get to know her a bit and that’s it. Don’t reveal your life story and everything you’ve ever done in the first five minutes of conversation.
I know you’re excited to meet her and hit it off. But it doesn’t mean you should monopolize her time.
She’s there to have a good time and enjoy herself, not to listen to your life’s accomplishments in excruciating detail.
Approach them genuinely.
Cliché, but trust me, it works.
The idea of approaching women with the goal of “winning them over” or “scoring” with them is not only outdated but also downright disrespectful. Women are not prizes to be won, nor are they objects to be commodified.
So approach them with the intention of forging a genuine connection, whether that be as friends or potential romantic partners.
Don’t get riled up over it.
Of course, let’s be real. You can follow the best advice and it still doesn’t guarantee that women will like you.
But don’t take it personally. There are plenty of women who just aren’t interested in meeting anyone new and that’s okay. No amount of niceness will change that.
