Big Guys Deserve Love Too
Whether we admit it or not, looks matter, and this is why a lot of big men are giving up on finding their partners.
Of course, attraction is complex and personal, so different people are attracted to different things.
Everyone is entitled to their own preferences. However, the issue lies with society’s toxic beauty standards that influence what is considered attractive.
These standards can include pressure to have clear and unblemished skin, to have certain facial features or hair, and to adhere to certain standards of grooming and hygiene.
More so, it includes the pressure to be thin or to have a certain body shape or size.
In commercials, we often see how the skinny guy gets the girl, while the big guy is left with no one. It implies that being thin makes you attractive and capable of finding a partner. But, if you’re not, you’re better off on your own.
It hurts, but that’s the reality we’re facing today.
Big boys’ personalities are often overlooked.
It’s easy for us to say that looks don’t matter and that personality is the most important factor in dating and finding love. Well, I hate to break it to you, but it’s not entirely true.
This is because the notion that slim guys are more attractive than big ones is deeply ingrained in our society. It makes us overlook big guys’ personalities and only see them as potential partners, therefore always liked, but never pursued.
This is especially true when it comes to dating apps. If you’re a big guy, don’t expect girls to message you first because they probably won’t. You have to be proactive and do it yourself.
There are also women who don’t pursue these guys despite knowing their personalities because of these thoughts.
I like him. He’s kind and a gentleman, but I’m ashamed to be seen with him.
He has a great personality, but there are no other redeeming physical characteristics, so I don’t think I can be with him.
First, they give you compliments. Then they come with a “but” after.
The sad thing is, I’ve seen this happen to my own friends. There was one guy who was always very kind, confident, and funny.
He had a great personality and was someone you could talk to about anything. But it didn’t matter because he wasn’t skinny enough to get any dates despite having all these qualities that women look for in men.
It just goes to show how superficial our world is. It’s honestly a joke at this point.
Big guys are still rejected despite having great personalities.
Let’s face it. You can be kind, honest, loyal, and understanding, but you still won’t be enough to keep a woman. In the end, you’ll still get rejected because you don’t fit into society’s beauty standards.
I think it’s unfair that you can be a great guy, and still get rejected because of your weight.
The truth is, we live in a world where only looks matter. It’s the first thing anyone notices about someone else, and it can be the deciding factor on whether or not they get to know you better.
But, if physical attraction is all that matters, then why do we expect more from our partners? Why do we want them to be kind, respectful, consistent, and reliable when these qualities don’t really matter?