3 Habits That Sabotage Your Dating Life
Time and time again, I encounter frustrated individuals who can’t seem to get a grip on their dating life.
And, mind you, most of them are already past their thirties, and yet they still fail to maintain strong and lasting relationships.
But I don’t judge them. Not everyone understands how to maneuver relationships. And that’s why relationship coaches exist.
Although these people come to seek my advice, I don’t always give it to them right away.
I first ask them about their habits.
From our conversations, I’ve noticed three habits that these clients of mine have in common.
Being passive-aggressive
Giving the silent treatment, making hostile jokes, and unreasonably blaming their partner are all examples of being passive-aggressive in the relationship.
Most people, if not all, unknowingly do this, especially if they’re tired of fighting in the middle of a heated argument.
As humans, we’re prone to make mistakes and hurt others. But if your passive-aggression becomes a habit, don’t expect anyone to stick with you.
Being too critical
We all have our own version of a perfect partner. And this is primarily why some people are too critical of their partner.
If their partner deviates slightly from what they imagined their partner to be, they would criticize them. They act as though a single flaw could end their world.
They’ll hand out unsolicited advice, even insults, that only make their partner feel worse.
Compromising too much
Too much of anything is bad, be it money, emotions, or relationships.
A relationship is ideally about you and your partner coming together to make each other happy and healthy.
Sharing the household chores, showing love based on your partner’s love languages, and learning each other’s communication style — these are all healthy compromises.
But what’s not healthy is when you repeatedly betray your own truth, values, and desires. It’s not healthy because you might lose your self-respect just for the sake of the relationship.
Most relationships fail because they don’t realize that sacrifice should be mutual, not one-sided. Therefore both partners must exert effort to come to an agreement where all parties are satisfied.
Break the bad habits.
I’ve seen a lot of people struggle with these issues. To be honest, solving these isn’t rocket science.
If you genuinely love your partner, you don’t need someone to push you to do the right thing. You will work on breaking those bad habits and proactively make things right.
Be open, kind, respectful, empathetic, and compassionate to them. Otherwise, you’ll end up losing such a beautiful thing.
