I Chose My Husband Because He’s the Convenient One

If your dream woman lives on the other side of the world, would you go the extra mile to be with her or do you choose someone who’s convenient and is already there for you?

Tough choice, huh? If you’re the type who makes the impossible possible, you’d probably pursue the person you want no matter where they are or how difficult the circumstances may be.

But, humans as we are, many would choose the latter only because it’s easy and comfortable. And it’s the reality for most people today.

Most tend to choose the easier option when given a choice. It’s a fact of life, but it’s affecting relationships more than you realize.

“I chose my husband because he’s the one who was there when I was ready to settle down. But the truth is, I love someone else. I just don’t see that person being with me in my life. He’s way above my lifestyle. He’s too good to be true for me.“

Said the woman who cheated on her husband. She’s in her 40s and has been married for over 10 years. She and her husband have been living a happy and comfortable life, or at least that’s what the people around them thought.

The husband treats her like a queen. He would do all the household chores, take care of their kids, listen to all of her problems, and give her what she wanted and needed on top of loving her unconditionally.

From an external perspective, you’d think that the wife has it all. But in reality, she longs for something more. She wants someone that can make her feel alive again and unfortunately, it’s not her husband.

We settle for less because we’re afraid to be alone.

I scoured the Internet trying to find the reason behind this and this is what stuck with me the most.

“Many people know that the person we fall in love with won’t necessarily fit our lives best. But in order to have a long-term partner, you need to be able to have stability.

It also means not changing your lifestyle too much to fit your partner in. We don’t have to change what we’re comfortable with. Makes it a lot easier to coast by.”

Makes sense, right? Many people lower their standards and stay in unsatisfying relationships because of their fear of being alone. And this is what exactly happened with the wife.

She didn’t want to be alone and the easiest option available that could save her from that misery is her husband. She settled for him despite not loving him as much as he loves her.

You can be in a relationship for convenience.

Being in a relationship for convenience is not inherently problematic. In fact, it is a valid choice in the challenging world we live in.

The issue lies when your needs aren’t met and you yearn for a deeper emotional connection. In short, you’re not satisfied with the relationship.

So, to those who can’t fully commit to their partners, please spare them the lies and pain. If you can’t genuinely love and care for them, it would be best if you leave them than further lead them on.