If Being Single Was So Great, People Would Strive to Be That Way
If being single were truly amazing, we wouldn’t have so many love songs, romantic comedies, and dating apps in existence.
Of course, being single definitely has its perks. You don’t have to compromise on anything, you can do whatever you want, whenever you want, and you don’t have to answer to anyone.
But these perks can get pretty old real fast. After all, human beings are social creatures, and we crave connection and companionship.
Hi, I’m Lorraine, a dating coach who has helped hundreds of singles and couples navigate their dating lives.
You may think I’m biased with this topic and I’m trying to influence you to enter a relationship. But you’re wrong. In fact, I am single by choice and I don’t plan on finding a partner soon.
So why am I writing this anyway? Well, it’s because I’m tired of hearing that relationships suck and people are better off alone in this world.
Before we go any further, let me just say that this is my opinion, and it’s based on my own experience. I know that there are people out there who have different views, and they’re just as valid.
Relationships don’t suck.
First of all, let me just say that being in a happy and healthy relationship is one of the most amazing feelings in the world.
When I had my first relationship, it was nothing but full of love and joy, until I messed it up. If you’ve read my article entitled, Men Are Tired of Combative Women, you’ll know what happened.
To tell you the truth, that was my sole encounter with romantic relationships, and I don’t want to pursue any further experiences in that realm (at least not at the moment).
Not because I enjoy being single, but because I’m just not ready to welcome another person in my life.
I know how magical it feels to have someone who understands me on a deeper level, who supports me through thick and thin, and who listens to my fears and desires without judgment.
I want to experience that again when the time is right. But right now, I know it’s best to focus on working on myself.
Being single is the right choice…
for me.
Sometimes, I catch myself being delulu or delusional by thinking about what would happen if I were dating someone. Will I be better? Or will I be the same toxic Lorraine I once was?
But then I immediately snap out of it because being single is a conscious choice that I made for myself. By focusing on my growth, I know that I will be a better partner to whoever is meant for me.
Right now, I enjoy my singleness as much as I can. I take myself on a date, indulge in self-care routines, and spend quality time with my friends and family.
While I do most of the things alone, I’m still happy because I was able to try new things and explore my interests.
To be in a happy relationship is a dream.
Yes, I enjoy my own company right now. But someday when I’m ready, I still hope that the right person will come along, enhance my life and bring even more joy and meaning to it.
But until then, I am content with where I am and the journey that I am on.
To all my readers, this is my personal take — I may not have someone right now, but I still believe that being in a relationship is better than being single.
But don’t rush yourself. It’s still better to enter a relationship when you know you can give pure and lasting love.
