Lessons from the Movie “50 First Dates”

Is your relationship going through a rough patch?

Are you thinking about giving up on your partner?

Most relationships will go through a phase where it seems like they’re beyond saving. You may think that things won’t get better, that your partner will never change, and that nothing can fix the problems in your relationship.

Fortunately, the movie “50 First Dates” gave us insight as to how we should fight for our love.

There are a lot of lessons to learn from the film, especially when it comes to saving your relationship and fighting for your significant other.

Keep expressing your love.

Couples that are going through a tough time tend to withdraw from each other. They stop showing their love for their partners because they want to avoid appearing weak in front of them.

But love is all about humility and making compromises. If you are in a difficult situation, it’s crucial that you consider how your partner feels.

Taking the initiative to fix the problem is not a weakness. It means that you care for your relationship and you would never let a challenging situation stop you from expressing your love to your partner.

Surprisingly, indulging in a fight with your partner is a way of expressing that you care about your relationship.

Studies show that healthy arguments increase your intimacy; couples who go through healthy arguments tend to be closer and trust each other more. However, if none of you tries to meet each other halfway, you’ll end up falling out of love.

So, show your love to your significant other despite the difficult situation you are in, or even when you are in a fight.

If you love them, don’t hold back.

We sometimes tend to hold back what we want to say, especially when we are in a fight. Just like in the movie, Henry (Adam Sandler) had to muster his courage every day just to show Lucy (Drew Barrymore) that he loves her.

Assuming that your relationship is in trouble, would you put in more effort to keep it from falling apart or will you hold back?

You pursue your partner every single day.

Wooing the person you love does not happen in a single day. You don’t just make someone fall in love with you today and stop the next day. You have to pursue them each day, to assure them that you are still interested in them.

In the movie, Henry had to pursue Lucy every single day because she suffers from short-term memory loss.

When we love someone, we don’t let a single day pass by without letting them know.

Today, we can easily remind them that we care for them through a text, by bringing them lunch at work, or by writing them a letter and telling them how much they matter to us.

We don’t do this because they might easily forget like Lucy, but we put in more effort just to show our partner that our love grows stronger each day.

Embrace their imperfections.

Imagine having a partner that is struggling with a lot of insecurities or has a lot of rough edges. You try to help them overcome their imperfections, but it seems like your efforts are going nowhere.

This is exactly what it means to love someone. We don’t just accept their good traits, we accept everything about them, and that includes their imperfections.

Embrace their flaws even if they themselves have a hard time accepting them.

Now, what are you doing for your relationship?

Fight for love.

When your relationship is slowly going down the drain, remember that you can always put in more effort to save it.

If your partner doesn’t want to talk about your situation and you can’t tell them how much they mean to you, try communicating with them through your actions.

Cook them their favorite meal, take them out to a movie, surprise them with a gift, or simply spend time with them and share meaningful conversations. There’s a lot you can do to show them that you value your relationship.

If you think about the movie, Lucy may have forgotten about Henry, but her heart still remembers. However, she wouldn’t remember if Henry didn’t put in enough effort to remind her.

So, if you think that your efforts are not enough, don’t give up so easily.

Fight for your relationship, even if you think that it’s falling apart.