DATING & RELATIONSHIPS
The Truth about Marrying a Single Mother
Here’s the thing. A lot of the time, marrying someone means marrying their family as well.
If you want the bride, you’re getting the whole family too, whether you like it or not. In some cases, this also includes the woman’s own children.
Unfortunately, this has become a deal breaker for others.
Parenthood is no easy task, so it’s no surprise that a lot of men tend to shy away from immediately having to father children that aren’t even theirs to begin with.
But what happens when you fall head over heels in love with a single mother? Is the relationship something worth pursuing?
The Good Side
There are many great things about marrying a single mother.
One is that single mothers possess a level of maturity that only parenthood can bring out. This means that how she treats you and your relationship is a lot more mature than most women who haven’t had kids yet.
Her experience with a past relationship may have taught her how to better handle any given situation. She may be able to offer better companionship as well.
You can also expect a serious relationship with her since she’s technically already raising a family, so she knows exactly what kind of man she wants by her side.
If she invests her love, effort, and time in you, then you already know where you stand in her life.
With single mothers, you won’t have to keep beating around the bush or play the “what are we?” game every other week.
And if you do plan on having your own kids one day, then you won’t need to worry about whether or not she’ll be a good mother to them. Just the fact that she’s able to raise her child or children on her own says a lot about her capability and strength as a parent.
The Ugly Truth
On the flip side, marrying a single mother can be challenging for multiple reasons.
One, there is a chance that her children may not like you. Keep in mind that you’re basically a stranger to them, so if you want to win their mom over, you need to win their hearts as well.
Another obstacle is the biological father of her children. If he’s still in the picture, then it could be a struggle getting him to accept that you’ll be at the forefront of raising his children instead of him.
The last obstacle isn’t so much an obstacle as it is a truth that can be hard to swallow for a lot of men. It’s that you are not her number one priority.
For a mother, her child always comes first. Even more so for a single mother who had to raise her child on her own.
This doesn’t mean she won’t care about you. But the sooner you accept that she’ll always put her child before you, the better it will be for your relationship.
The Verdict
At the end of the day, whether or not a relationship is worth pursuing is entirely up to you.
But with a single mother, you have to be committed if you plan on pursuing her because it’s not just her you’ll be walking away from if things don’t work out. Her child could also potentially be affected if you’re not serious about your relationship.
Single mothers are exceptional women who have had to brave through a painful experience and still come out standing. With their children in the equation, they have even more reason to never settle for less.
That being said, show her that you’re exactly who she needs.
