Men Reveal Why They’ve Given Up Dating Local Women
What made you decide to date foreign women? Wouldn’t it be easier to date someone within your area?
These are the questions I asked Neil, Scott, and Lucas (not their real names). These men have decided to join a matchmaking service in the hopes of finding true love.
Yes, they’re going to great lengths to find love. They’re even sacrificing the convenience of local dating.
What could be their reasons? Could it be incompatible partners? Negative past experiences? Geographic limitations? Personal preferences?
Let’s find out.
“I can’t find someone real.”
What do you mean real? I asked Neil.
And he said, This didn’t only happen once, twice, or thrice, but a lot of times. Every time I go out on dates, I always get the feeling that I’m just being used.
I’m a businessman and I make quite a lot of money. Although I don’t mind paying the bill on dates, most of the women I’ve met always ask me to.
And not just one date, but every time we go out together, I feel like I’m just a walking ATM machine.
So when I noticed that I’m just being taken advantage of, believe me when I say I ghosted them and tried my best to forget they ever existed.
“I tried dating the women here, but I just can’t coexist with them.”
Scott has dated a fair amount of women in America, but none of them were right for him. This is because he couldn’t find someone he could live in harmony with.
In short, his problem was compatibility.
He told me that he had once met a gorgeous woman. She had all the qualities a man could want in a partner. She was kind, affectionate, and empathetic.
They dated for months, until they both realized that their values and goals weren’t aligned. They were no longer living and loving in the same direction.
For one thing, Scott wanted to save as much as he could for their future. He would normally forego his wants and would focus on both of their needs.
His partner, though, was his complete opposite. She would go on spending binges.
She thought they should pursue their desires and not place restrictions on their happiness, even if it meant exhausting their bank accounts.
“I find foreign women more beautiful.”
You might think this is just a superficial reason, but wait until you hear Lucas’s answer.
Lucas defines beauty differently. He thinks a woman is truly beautiful when she is compassionate, intelligent, humble, and respects herself.
He found those qualities in foreign women. In his country, he had often encountered selfish, entitled, and cruel women.
He said, Not to toot my own horn, but I’m such a lover boy, and sometimes I hate it. Most of the women I’ve dated only fend for themselves.
They don’t think about me and the relationship. They need me to act as their support when they’re lonely. Otherwise, I’m useless.
And that was when he decided to start trying his luck elsewhere. Now, he is happily married to a woman he had met thousands of miles away from home.
Don’t settle for less.
I’m not implying that the women in your country are less. But if you’re just like these men who can’t find love in their area, what’s stopping you from exploring your options and venturing out of your comfort zone?
