Is It Wrong for Men to Date Plus Size Women?
I once read a Facebook post from a woman who said, Men should only date slim and curvy women. They should never date those out-of-shape ones or otherwise, they’ll be judged for the rest of their lives.
And I kid you not, I was taken aback. I’m a woman, but I don’t understand how some women could think like this. I didn’t know preferences should be imposed nowadays. Plus size? Slim? Curvy? Should there really be one correct type?
Attraction is a complex and personal phenomenon…
…so no one should dictate to anyone who they should like.
I’ve seen good-looking individuals who marry not-so-good-looking ones, but I don’t judge them. It’s their lives, and it’s not my place to interfere with or question their choices.
I’ve also met a couple who, despite being perceived as incompatible due to their differing body types, were in a happy relationship.
But their relationship eventually ended. It wasn’t due to any issues between them, but as a result of the damage inflicted on their self-esteem by the opinions of others.
And you know what made it worse? People said that if their love was strong enough, they wouldn’t have left each other.
How cruel and insensitive can people be? Those people who have been bullied and oppressed can suffer from a lot of emotional and psychological damage, so we don’t have the right to judge them if they give up fighting for someone or something.
We all have our own definition of “beautiful”
When I was young, I saw a commercial for a fitness supplement wherein a man is shown looking side by side at two women.
One woman is thin and fit, while the other is depicted as plus size and out of shape.
And guess who the man chose? Yes, the fit woman, and he goes on to have a romantic encounter with her.
This is just one example of how the media perpetuates beauty standards. People who are fit and healthy are instantly attractive, while those that deviate from those standards aren’t.
And sadly, this has become one of the reasons why people impose their beauty standards.
So those who choose the ones that aren’t conventionally attractive, they’re being criticized and frowned upon.
But to tell you honestly, attraction is subjective, and there’s no “right” way to look or be attractive. What’s beautiful for you may not be for others and that’s okay.
If some men like slim women, good for them. If you like other body types, that’s fine too.
In the end, we should embrace diversity and respect the different preferences and tastes of others.
Let’s celebrate the unique beauty of all individuals and recognize that everyone has something special and attractive about them.
You have the right to choose who you want.
Pretty or ugly, slim or thick, and tall or short, you have the right to choose who you want to be with.
Who cares if society thinks your partner is too out of shape for you? It’s their problem, not yours.
I know that living in a judgmental society is hard and painful, but don’t let others dictate your decisions and give them the power to corrupt your mind.
It’s you who’s living your life, therefore take control of it. At the end of the day, it’s your happiness that’s at stake, not theirs.
