LOVE LANGUAGES
How Do We Speak the Languages of Love?
And how significant it is in relationships.
Love languages. This term has been bouncing around the internet for quite some time now. You’ve probably encountered it.
If you have, then have you ever wondered how fluent you are?
You must be thinking this article will be so cheesy, but love languages are important. Your growth as a person as well as the growth of any relationship you’re in lies in how well you can speak the language of love.
Yes, love comes in a language of its own. It comes in five, actually.
Words of Affirmation
This language is spoken through words, but not just any words. Words that communicate love and appreciation.
They are expressed in words
- “Thank you for…”
- “I love it when you…”
- “Everything is better when you..”
Or seen in writing
- Handwritten notes.
- Love letters.
Those who speak this type of love language place more weight on words. They are usually sensitive to their surroundings and may be self-conscious of what others may think of them. They frequently speak this language in the hopes that the person they’re with is fluent enough to understand.
Quality Time
This language is spoken through time spent together. You let your loved one feel your love through your presence. This love language is centered on the quality of the connection that’s nurtured within that time.
You’d be able to determine them through
- making eye contact
- planned dates or activities
- active listening or how attentive you are to your partner
Those who speak this love language don’t always take into account what you do in the time you’re together. Even if you both spend it in complete silence, they will be content, because what matters the most is your presence.
Physical Touch
It is a language spoken through touch, the heartfelt ones that let your loved ones feel your love through intimate moments. This is when actions speak louder than words.
With a simple
- squeeze of their hand
- hug
- kiss
- cuddle
And no, physical touch is not always about being sexual with your partner. The true essence of this love language is to be able to establish emotional intimacy through physical acts.
People who speak this love language may be misinterpreted as clingy, but if you look closely, they’re just being affectionate.
Acts of Service
This love language is spoken through service. You show your love with time and effort.
You may show it through these examples:
- Preparing a meal.
- Sharing chores with your partner.
It can also be through paying attention:
- Knowing how they want their coffee.
- What time your favorite series is on.
People with this kind of love language are attentive and considerate of your needs. They serve willingly out of a genuine need and delight to provide ease and comfort for you.
Giving or Receiving Gifts
Yes, this language is spoken through material things. You show your love through things that remind your loved one of them. Love is spoken through gifts.
Love can be expressed by
- sending flowers
- giving small gifts (chocolate, trinkets, etc.)
- having food delivered
People with this love language are quite creative in their ways of expressing affection. Inexpensive gifts, for as long as given thoughtfully, would be appreciated by them.
You don’t need to be fluent. Just understanding the languages will do wonders.
You heard that right. There’s no need to be fluent in all love languages. As long as you know yours and you’re attentive enough to understand your partner’s, you’re on solid footing.
Love languages play a vital role in fostering your relationship. Being able to identify and comprehend your partner’s needs deepens your connection, improves your communication, heightens intimacy, and helps you to avoid future conflicts.
And hey, I swear, love will grow and speak through you.
