Things to Consider Before Dating a Filipina

Lorraine Villorejo
3 min readAug 9, 2022

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Thousands of American men are dating and marrying Filipino women.

In fact, intermarriages between Filipino women and American men reached 25.6 percent in 2018. It was the highest number of intermarriages in the Philippines ever recorded.

Most of these men met with these women online. They first found them on an international dating website, talked for months, and grew their relationships.

Some of these men traveled to the Philippines just to meet the woman of their dreams, either by themselves or with the assistance of the matchmaking company.

Regardless of what route these men took, one thing is certain — dating a Filipina was the best choice they ever made.

However, dating women from the Philippines isn’t as easy as one might expect.

Filipinas are complex individuals. They have certain qualities that are different from American women.

So, to help you in your pursuit of a Filipino girlfriend, here are some things to keep in mind:

Get rid of the stereotypes.

There is this stereotype that all Filipino women who are dating American men are gold diggers and submissive.

This may be true in some cases, but it certainly does not apply in most of them. Here’s what you need to understand:

1. Filipino women are not gold diggers.

Unlike what Hollywood movies and sitcoms may portray, Filipino women are not gold diggers who will only use you to get a green card.

A few bad apples do not represent the bunch.

The reality is — a lot of Filipina online daters are educated, have decent jobs, and are seeking real love.

2. Filipino women are not all submissive.

It’s not true that all women from the Philippines are conservative and submissive.

Like any traditional country, the Philippines is slowly adapting to Western ways of dating. As such, you can see some Filipino women who resist traditional dating norms.

You may find a woman who prefers to date casually. On your first date, she may ask you to split the bill or pay for the bill on her own.

This is what you need to accept — some Filipino women are progressive.

However, don’t worry if you are looking for a conservative woman — most Filipinas still are. You just need to look for her.

Filipino women are not one-dimensional.

If you have never dated a Filipina, you may put them in a box.

I’m not blaming you. Western media always portray women from traditional countries such as the Philippines as some monolith — stereotypical and one-dimensional.

They are the ideal wives with certain qualities. This statement may be somewhat true but is stereotypical.

Avoid doing that. Don’t put them in a box.

Just like how the Philippines is diverse, each Filipina has characteristics and quirks that make them unique.

A Filipina can be a Roman Catholic with a progressive belief. She can be family-centered and caring while also being independent.

This is the duality of Filipino women. Don’t expect them to only hold certain characteristics.

Be aware of cultural differences.

Lastly, dating Filipino women means dealing with cultural differences and language barriers.

There are over 100 dialects in the country. Roman Catholicism is the dominant religion, with subsections of the population being Christian or Muslim.

They are highly communal people and very family oriented.

Filipinas have interesting and unusual personalities when compared to women of other nationalities.

Should you date a Filipina?

Absolutely.

There’s a reason why thousands of American men marry Filipino women. It’s not just about their beauty. It’s also about their personality.

And good Filipino women are gems. They stick to the men they love. They take their vows seriously.

A Filipina knows a good man when she sees one. Are you the one?

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